Some of the biggest challenges in relationships come from the fact that most people enter a relationship in order to get something: they’re trying to find someone who’s going to make them feel good. In reality, the only way a relationship will last is if you see your relationship as a place that you go to give, and not a place that you go to take – Anthony Robbins
That being said, understanding relationships is not complicated…we complicate things by expecting too much from people, forcing relationships &/or wanting people to treat us the way we want to be treated. Be the kind of person you would like to be with. Some people come into our lives & make footprints in our hearts, embrace those moments even if you don´t ever get to see those people again, you never know.
Relationships don’t develop automatically & don’t deepen on their own…it takes effort! The kind of effort that never obligates a friend but rather draws them to us naturally. We must be conscious of this in our relationships & think about what efforts we can make to deepen our connection with people who matter to us. We must pay close attention to what other people value & make the effort to connect to them on that level. When we are good to the people we love, we really are taking care of ourselves.
I totally agree with the proverb that says: “Shared joy is a double joy; shared sorrow is half a sorrow.” Each person we meet represents a world in us, a world possibly not born until they arrive & change the way we view ourselves & life itself. They may be present in our life for a short period of time or our entire life, but that won´t alter how we were changed by them & how we contribute to their change.
The real key is removing fear from the equation. I believe that what really separates us from a meaningful relationship is fear of rejection, unconsciously (or consciously) we might drive people away before they drives us away (or so we think), but if we drive them away how are we supposed to know if they will do the same. When it comes to relationships (or anything for that matter) we have to be fearless, we must understand that our self worth does not have to be in anyway altered if someone moves away from us, we might have nothing to do with that (although we might question why). When we can relate to people without fear it becomes much easier to form deep connections with other human beings. Is there anything worse than superficial relationships? maybe, but I for one don´t want them in my life.
All relationships are significant; none are irrelevant, even the strangers you pass on the street are important parts of you – Steve Pavlina