“Be yourself”…ever heard of that catch phrase before?…duh! Of course & so much so it becomes irritating to hear after a while…probably beacuse we are not sure of how to really “be ourselves.” People say it so easy as if it were something to take lightly….but in actuality it is not. The implications of being one´s self are very much profound. It might take a lifetime to polish this particular art.
We´re all in a quest to better ourselves & that search is legit, all the while we are striving for perfection without ever reaching it, and we know that. We all are perfect at being imperfect. I have come to realize that perfectionism is a self esteem issue based on emotional convictions about what one must do to be acceptable as a person. It makes us feel that nothing we do will ever be good enough.
“A lot of the conflict we have in our lives exists simply because we’re not living in alignment with what we feel, say & think”- Steve Maraboli
Being authentic is not about doing everything we want nor avoiding anything we don´t want to do. Being authentic starts by loving ourselves with all the good, the bad & the ugly & accepting all the judgement, praise & criticism that comes along with it. By constantly looking for the approval of others, we drown our own approval of ourselves. If we are in a perpetual search of what society makes us believe will improve our happiness, we will never know what truly makes us happy. It´s not that we lose who we truly are, it´s that we choose not to listen to our inner voice & in the meantime it becomes duller & duller.
We tend to tuck our weaknesses under the rug in a failed attempt to present ourselves as fearless & strong. Yet we don´t often realize that by embracing & learning from them, people will perceive strength of character in us & might want to follow. People want to see the human part of us, not the know-it-all-superhero. It´s even biblical:
“My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is perfect in weakness. Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ will rest upon me. For the sake of Christ, then, I am content with weaknesses, insults, hardships, persecution & calamities. For when I am weak, then I am strong”- 2 Corinthians 12:9, 10
If we recognize our weaknesses, we will not let pride stand in our way…we will seek God, fully knowing that He has our best interest at heart.
“Being authentic is the ability to be true to oneself. Living an authentic life requires the ability to be true to our own wants, needs & desires and not live our lives by the opinion of others. Being authentic is the ability to make self-honoring choices & stand firmly in who we are in our core. Being true to ourselves gives us the insight & compassion to see others for who they are, not who we expect them to be. It frees us up from the judgment of ourselves & it gives others the freedom to be themselves as well”- Victoria J. Reynolds
To be authentic we have to let go of who we think we are in order to be who we truly are. I am in the pursuit of this & hope you join me in my journey. In the end all that will be left is “Be-you-tiful”