Scarred & Scared

“Tell your heart that the fear of suffering is worse than the suffering itself. And that no heart has ever suffered when it goes in search of its dreams, because every second of the search is a second’s encounter with God & eternity.”- Paulo Coelho (The Alchemist)

We all are scarred & scared. Every. Single. One. Of. Us. Even Jesus got scared at the last minutes before He was to be crucified (scarred)… it’s a human thing to feel apprehension, uncertainty & overwhelming fear at times… but despite all the efforts our ego makes for us to utter the words I can’t we mustn’t quit… Jesus did not quit on us despite His fear of being hurt; Anne Frank didn’t stop dreaming or believing for a better world, despite her terrible circumstances… I think that’s what kept her sane. And we all know she couldn’t make it in this world, but surely she is living in a far better world beyond her dreams.

“The only time you can be brave is when you are afraid”- George Martin

By all means take a break, a hiatus, a sabbatical year, a prophylactic leave if you must… but never quit! Life can certainly feel a drag when we think we are disappointing ourselves &/or others & even feel paralyzed at the site of our own (imaginary or not) failures. When such thing happens the first thing that comes to mind is quitting.

“Men go to far greater lengths to avoid what they fear than to obtain what they desire.”- Dan Brown

I agree with Jonathan Fields in his book Uncertainty when he says: “Being overwhelmed by fear is a signal that you are on the verge of something big, but you must keep moving forward.” I sometimes wonder as to why we need to crash & burn only to rise from the ashes to become the best version of ourselves… It must be a matter of letting go of old mental blocks that unable us to move forward. Perhaps if we remove the negative bias (the tendency to get more affected by the mean waiter, rather than the friendly hostess) from our mental equation we will discover a new world of possibilities & opportunities – a higher self-esteem, better relationships with others & ourselves, etc. – which will ultimately lead to joy galore!

We should learn to enjoy other’s triumphs as if they were our own; look for the good in every person around us even if they are hard to deal with & embrace it; forgive; let people be themselves not a reflection of our own image. In short, let us choose love over fear. For the secret of life is joy & the secret of joy is love and love’s offender number one is fear.

“There is no fear in love, but perfect love casts out fear…”- 1 John 4:18

I consider myself to be a highly positive human being (which of course does not mean slapping a big fat smile everywhere I go) which was something I discovered through my lowest moments yet I keep struggling with fear & uncertainty. I absolutely agree with this statement I recently read:

“The world needs more real people, not people who pretend to have it together, but people who keep it together enough to admit that they don’t really keep it together or even know how to keep it together.”

We certainly need relatable people in this maze called life. We’re all in search of people we can admire – usually people who triumphantly overcame adversity. Yet it’s hard for us to let go of the idea that everything needs to be perfect in order for us to be happy… Mistakes & failures are a must in the road to success.

“We pass through this world but once. Few tragedies can be more extensive than the stunting of life, few injustices deeper than the denial of an opportunity to strive or even to hope, by a limit imposed from without, but falsely identified as lying within.”- Stephen Jay Gould

I leave you with a song that touches every fiber of my being. I whisper it in my children’s ears & they love it… please enjoy!! (Diana Ross’s beautiful voice sounds better with headphones)

“If we Hold on Together (theme song of the movie The Land before Time)” performed by Diana Ross

… when the storms of fear & uncertainty breeze in, hold to the truth in your heart…

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